"Are you wet V?"

"God yes!"

"Hold that thought," I laugh. "I have more in the gear bag. A black leather hood that encases the entire head. The fur lined blindfold attaches with velcro. I also have a a variety of gags that also attach-O rings-penis gags and even an inflatable gag for when I'm not using your mouth for my pleasure."

"How do I breath B?"

"There are nostril holes and a mouth hole for breathing. There is a wide leather collar at the bottom and the hood locks on. Once you're in it, it can only be removed with a key to the lock. I generally use ear plugs as well. It heightens the isolation and intensity of all the tactile stimulations. The blackness and the silence drive you deep into your emotions-your isolation and the experience of the pain and pleasure of the scene. The hood also serves to de-personalize you-it makes you almost a blank canvas-not a person but a body for me to play and pleasure and create an individualized tableau of sounds, sensations and at times a mark or two. It is a wonderous thing. Every bottom I've known would rather be whipped with a single tail then first put on the hood. It begins every scene and putting it on is the supreme moment of submission."

It amazes me that bottoms that I have only talked to but never met will place themselves in such a position of vulnerability. The paradigm is based upon total trust and while we have always talked at length, at times even completed and reviewed questionnaires, it is nonetheless a first meeting, in private and with the bottom in a place of total helplessness. The scenes always take place in a private home where the women lives alone or in a hotel or motel where I can arrange for the rental and monitor her arrival to insure that she's alone. Part of what a bottoms seeks when they enter into a relationship with a top is not just the authority figure but also a structured relationship that is based upon control by the top. Yea ok! You reader are not doubt thinking well sure B but why state the obvious. Well it may be obvious to you and to me, but these first time bottoms haven't even given thought to the concept. Things like collars and and cuff and ankle restraints are the physical manifestations of the paradigm of control but this first encounter establishes the top's control without those physical manifestations.